Wait and it will be too late. We had gone swimming at the same beach in Guam (Gab-Gab) 50 years apart. One of several shards of fun facts I picked up while working with World War II veterans in the early 1990s. Yet I blew my opportunity to learn more. …

Fear of being judged and ostracized embeds self-destructive personal identity badges. — My Badges: A man As straight As divorced As single As an Atheist As white As an endurance athlete These labels or badges of identity (and I could go on) are cultural constructs. We apply them at certain points in our lives and they help us define ourselves. Sometimes. At times some…

Its existence is threatened by your recovery, yet listening to it poses an existential threat to you. — The Voice is King I can speak with some credibility. I am a 55-year-old man whose Anorexia Nervosa manifested in the early 1980s. Treatment at the time — or at least the treatment offered to me — was a physician (an “eating disorder specialist”) telling me to gain weight or he’d involuntarily hospitalize and…

It Starts with Primary Care vs Gender Mores It’s not hard to find data showing that men see a primary care doctor far less frequently than do women. Most men reading this will agree based on their own experience. Moreover most women reading this, if they have had men in…

Men often avoid treatment because of the additional stigma eating disorders carry, and as a result, they may suffer silently for decades. — Stigma deters treatment This is personal. I am a man who has battled an eating disorder for 40 years. It bleeds into every seam, every second, every moment of my life. It is real. It is brutal. It does not go away without help. Stigma was the largest single factor in my avoidance…

It was my most significant blind spot and took me far too long to comprehend and acknowledge — Had I been born lacking a sense: hearing, vision…would I recognize its absence? Of course, I’d observe others and learn of the sense through my exposure to daily life, but perhaps not be able to understand what it is like to have that sense truly. I similarly perceive my white…

Companies need crystallized intelligence. Older workers are your source. Psychologist Raymond Cattell developed the concept of fluid and crystallized intelligence in 1963. Per Wikipedia: Fluid intelligence is the ability to solve novel reasoning problems and is correlated with a number of important skills such as comprehension, problem solving, and learning.[3] …

My constant bane confronts its latest adversary — As with all of my previous hobbies, this one launched on an impulse. One evening I thought: “wouldn’t it be cool to ride a motorcycle across the country?” Two days later I owned a vintage 1974 Moto Guzzi despite never having ridden a motorcycle before. I am 55 years old…

The key to contentment is letting yourself off the hook. — “Defeat doesn’t finish a man, quit does. A man is not finished when he’s defeated. He’s finished when he quits.” — Richard Nixon “All ballplayers should quit when it starts to feel as if all the baselines run uphill.” — Babe Ruth This isn’t about buying sweats and “giving up”…